Care isn’t just about putting bandages on a kid’s knee and preparing school lunches. For many of us, it’s about looking after our own parents too, especially as unforeseen health complications pop up. But while resources exist to help parents, little support is out there for those taking care of elderly loved ones.
If this is you, know that Idly sees you. The care you are showing for your loved ones is noted, is appreciated and sets an example that will make a profound impression on your kids. One of our main goals is to lighten your burden ever so slightly by giving you the tools you need to coordinate care your way.
Provide Visibility
Even if you’re an only child or the primary caregiver among siblings, you can still build a network into your planning. Create a calendar for your parent, and then share it with your siblings, your spouse, an aide or other helpers.
Start logging your parent’s care appointments on their calendar, as well as visits and even daily check-ins, like phone calls. You can assign different people to take these on, so they won’t all fall on you.
Include Kids and Out of State Siblings
Got a sibling or kiddo who wants to help, but can’t because they live far away, or they’re too young? Invite them to leave voice or handwritten notes for your parent on their Idly calendar, so they can add a personal touch to an event. Your sister can record a voice note saying ‘Good luck at your appointment today, mom!’ or your daughter can draw an epic sunrise. Chances are, they wish they could come along to help you, so it creates an emotional moment for them as well.
Create a Shared Source of Truth
Log all of your parent’s medical information, doctor / nurse information and medication or prescription needs into a List on Idly, and share it with your co-collaborators in care. It’s hard to be the one who remembers everything, so this can give you somewhere to point people next time they hit you up in the middle of an intense soccer game or conference. Plus, this may be a game changer in emergencies, when everyone needs quick access to information.
Provide Dignity and Independence
Give your parent access to their own calendar, so they can stay aware of their schedule, even if they lack the digital savvy to maintain it themselves. By knowing what’s coming up, it will give them a sense of control and help calm any anxiety. You can make sure your own calendar stays private if you’d like to keep your personal time your own.
Plan Meals and Snacks
Create a list in Idly of your parent’s favorite meals, snacks and ingredients, and add anyone who helps you out to the list. You can also add medical diet or allergy info. With this information centralized, you can assign special recipes for holidays or coordinate surprise visits from that pro cookie-baker cousin.
We hope these tips give you a flying start when it comes to coordinating care for your own parents. Let us know if you create your own Idly care hacks, as we’d love to share them with other parents like you. And remember, you’re our hero!
Note from Idly: This article is for informational purposes only and isn’t meant to be taken as medical advice. Idly is a shared family calendar, not a medical platform or substitute for professional healthcare services. Always consult with qualified healthcare professionals regarding your parent’s medical care and treatment decisions.